A GenX Question: Does It Ever Get Better?

November 28, 2023

YES.  And here’s the context…

Once you accept the hard truth – that after the:

  • sucking it up
  • holding it together
  • putting others first
  • doing what’s expected
  • making embarrassing mistakes &
  • failed relationships

… you are in fact the one that will save you.  You are the #cyclebreaker.  You are the lineage healer. It’s a big ask, I know. 

You have:

  • aging parents that “need” you
  • needs for connection in personal relationship or partnership
  • children that are harder to parent than what you had hoped for or expected
  • changes to your body, healthy, & energy
  • work or other responsibilities that “pile on”

The Good News

I wish we had the information & resources that are available to us NOW when we were growing up.  It could’ve been different.  I really get it.

And yet…

You are not alone. 

You have found support.  There is a path.  I wish we had found the path sooner AND let’s not allow overwhelm about the past prevent movement in the present & for our future.

I’m here to tell you it’s worth it.  I’m doing it.  I’ve seen others do it.  It is possible.   

My Path Included…

I’ve been seeking & building my own path of recovery & I want to help you build yours!

Mine started with my education in mental health & then investment in professional training that spoke to ALL of me – my wounds & hurt, my coping mechanisms, & my longing for deeper connection & vitality. 

Some of my favorite tools have been:

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS) or “parts work”
  • Somatic modalities
  • Polyvagal + Nervous System Education & Regulation
  • EMDR
  • Psychedelic Assisted Journeys
  • Music
  • Breathwork

Where Am I On This Journey?

This past year I completed two 10 month coaching containers, The 5 Circuits of Healing Power & Devoted the Embodiment Academy, to deepen the recovery & healing work I was already doing. 

I bring what I learned in those coaching containers to each of my client sessions & offerings.  The financial & time investment I made in those programs is truly a gift for me, for you, & the collective.

While I cognitively knew I needed a practice & process to stay with healing outside of the therapy office, this year I finally leaned into daily practices that allowed me to #connectinside & move the energy of emotions. 

I know now that these practices result in a potent code of wisdom that is medicine for your mind, heart, body, & spirit.  That’s what I want for me, for you, for us.

With the passing of this year, I am another year further from what I call my “traumatizing 40’s” & I am looking forward to new opportunities & possibilities as I prepare to enter my 50’s in May. 

And to be real, a necessary part of #cptsd recovery is “clean up” – all the things that were avoided while at lower capacity, in survival mode, or when busy healing.  It’s not fun TBH. 

I get the “juggle” of healing is also very real.

Many survivors experience:

  • straddling timelines – holding & meeting consequences from the past
  • while adulting in the present
  • taking aligned steps towards their “other side life” 
  • all while they may be the only person in their ecosystem (family, community, or business) that is doing the work. 

I find it validating that my #humandesign is a #manifestinggeneratior.  MGs spend the first 2/3 of our life making mistakes that grant us hard-earned wisdom.  The last third is when we share our wisdom with others.

As I clean up & complete unfinished business, I look forward to having more energy & time to share more of me – my journey, challenges, wins, & wisdom – with you. And as I end my 40s & begin my 50s, I am glad to have done the bulk of the healing from CPTSD & look forward to my “take 2” life. 

So yes, it can get better. Yes it requires time, energy, & money. You & your loved ones are worth it.

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