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(With or Without CPTSD) Do You Do This? This is SO common.  And it’s amplified in my clients who have a history of childhood or adult relational trauma.  Often #cptsd clients have been projected upon, gaslit, lied to, betrayed, shocked, abandoned AND then later judged for not having close connections with the people who dump […]

December 13, 2023

Common Mistakes My Clients Make

My Introduction to IFS I attended a free training in St. Louis; had full body chills. “This is what I’ve been searching for” – I want this!  Talk therapy hadn’t been enough.  I wanted to go deeper.  The IFS framework gave me a pathway. Overview of the IFS Model Self Energy = “I AM” 8 […]

July 7, 2023

My Divorce Story: IFS & CPTSD

Do you know HOW to connect with others? With yourself? Do you know WHAT to do to connect? Humans have a primal (survival) need for connection. The quality of our connection with others is determined first by our skill set. Our most intimate relationships will invite us to deepen our connection to self. INTIMACY WITH […]

March 21, 2023

Intimacy: What & How of Connection

It Takes A Village I’d like to offer the safety, security, & support needed for helping professionals to find their own healing or growth. Sometimes it takes a village. Do you know the saying, “it takes a village to raise a child”?    It originates from an African proverb & conveys the message that it takes […]

January 20, 2023

Wounded Healers Welcome

Divorce holiday triggering is real.  Currently, I’m holding BOTH an attitude of peace & frustration.  As I reflected this morning on my holiday plans, what I heard “inside” was:  let it go let it be honor yourself If you are a person contemplating divorce, going through the process, or on the “struggle bus” of post-divorce […]

December 22, 2022

Divorce Coping & Healing:  Holiday Edition 2022

Bids Relationship researcher,  John Gottman is known for identifying: 1) the predictors of divorce with over 90% accuracy as well as 2) the behaviors or “antidotes” for couples to course correct.  Gottman’s concept of “bids for connection” is central to relational health.  Let’s apply “bids for connection” to Self & Other. A bid for connection […]

December 19, 2022

Connect with Self & Others

Generational health has been on my mind of late.  My heart hurts for people of my generation & older who did not get what they needed & now hurt or cause hurt b/c of it – especially as I know disconnection contributes to dis-ease in our bodies, psyche, & relationships.  I have a fear that […]

November 21, 2022

Generational Differences & Holidays

In Episode Six of the Reset With Renee Podcast, Renee speaks with Jason Mark Glasson about how he learned to live from his heart & how he brings his learning & experience to helping others.  Jason learned through his 10+ years as a monk, his work in Quantum Touch, & in his coursework with Chris […]

November 14, 2022

Living Life From Love

Every human has a past, present, & future that requires change, endings, transitions or “messy middles”, & new beginnings. Change, desired or not, stretches normal ways of coping; it challenges the status quo & invites opportunities for growth.  The developmental life cycle & your relationships also prompt opportunities for growth.  All of these factors contribute […]

October 3, 2022

Story of Your Life

CPTSD = IT. CPTSD = DEVELOPMENTAL/RELATIONAL TRAUMA + OTHER TRAUMA I’ve spent my professional & personal life seeking the missing piece, the “IT” that would make the other puzzle pieces of my past & present finally make sense & fit together.  My search took decades, not years or months.  Learning about trauma, PTSD, addiction, & […]

October 3, 2022

CPTSD: The Missing Puzzle Piece