My Introduction to IFS I attended a free training in St. Louis; had full body chills. “This is what I’ve been searching for” – I want this!  Talk therapy hadn’t been enough.  I wanted to go deeper.  The IFS framework gave me a pathway. Overview of the IFS Model Self Energy = “I AM” 8 […]

Do you know HOW to connect with others? With yourself? Do you know WHAT to do to connect? Humans have a primal (survival) need for connection. The quality of our connection with others is determined first by our skill set. Our most intimate relationships will invite us to deepen our connection to self. INTIMACY WITH […]

Bids Relationship researcher,  John Gottman is known for identifying: 1) the predictors of divorce with over 90% accuracy as well as 2) the behaviors or “antidotes” for couples to course correct.  Gottman’s concept of “bids for connection” is central to relational health.  Let’s apply “bids for connection” to Self & Other. A bid for connection […]

Generational health has been on my mind of late.  My heart hurts for people of my generation & older who did not get what they needed & now hurt or cause hurt b/c of it – especially as I know disconnection contributes to dis-ease in our bodies, psyche, & relationships.  I have a fear that […]