Part 1: The Wound Begins Father’s Day often brings a mixture of emotions for many of us. For some, it’s a day of celebration and gratitude. For others, it’s a reminder of pain, loss, or unresolved issues. In this three-part series, I share my deeply personal journey of navigating the complex relationship I had with […]

(With or Without CPTSD) Do You Do This? This is SO common.  And it’s amplified in my clients who have a history of childhood or adult relational trauma.  Often #cptsd clients have been projected upon, gaslit, lied to, betrayed, shocked, abandoned AND then later judged for not having close connections with the people who dump […]

YES.  And here’s the context… Once you accept the hard truth – that after the: … you are in fact the one that will save you.  You are the #cyclebreaker.  You are the lineage healer. It’s a big ask, I know.  You have: The Good News I wish we had the information & resources that […]

Triggers, trailheads, activation, spiraling, dysregulation, blended, hijacked…. all words to describe something that happens to all of us in life ….” growth opportunities”.   In twelve step slang, this is a “FGO” – A FUCKING GROWTH OPPORTUNITY! In this state, through the #ifs lens, you are taken over by a part – some aspect of […]

My Introduction to IFS I attended a free training in St. Louis; had full body chills. “This is what I’ve been searching for” – I want this!  Talk therapy hadn’t been enough.  I wanted to go deeper.  The IFS framework gave me a pathway. Overview of the IFS Model Self Energy = “I AM” 8 […]

Do you know HOW to connect with others? With yourself? Do you know WHAT to do to connect? Humans have a primal (survival) need for connection. The quality of our connection with others is determined first by our skill set. Our most intimate relationships will invite us to deepen our connection to self. INTIMACY WITH […]

It Takes A Village I’d like to offer the safety, security, & support needed for helping professionals to find their own healing or growth. Sometimes it takes a village. Do you know the saying, “it takes a village to raise a child”?    It originates from an African proverb & conveys the message that it takes […]

Divorce holiday triggering is real.  Currently, I’m holding BOTH an attitude of peace & frustration.  As I reflected this morning on my holiday plans, what I heard “inside” was:  let it go let it be honor yourself If you are a person contemplating divorce, going through the process, or on the “struggle bus” of post-divorce […]

Bids Relationship researcher,  John Gottman is known for identifying: 1) the predictors of divorce with over 90% accuracy as well as 2) the behaviors or “antidotes” for couples to course correct.  Gottman’s concept of “bids for connection” is central to relational health.  Let’s apply “bids for connection” to Self & Other. A bid for connection […]

Generational health has been on my mind of late.  My heart hurts for people of my generation & older who did not get what they needed & now hurt or cause hurt b/c of it – especially as I know disconnection contributes to dis-ease in our bodies, psyche, & relationships.  I have a fear that […]