Every human has a past, present, & future that requires change, endings, transitions or “messy middles”, & new beginnings. Change, desired or not, stretches normal ways of coping; it challenges the status quo & invites opportunities for growth.  The developmental life cycle & your relationships also prompt opportunities for growth.  All of these factors contribute […]

CPTSD = IT. CPTSD = DEVELOPMENTAL/RELATIONAL TRAUMA + OTHER TRAUMA I’ve spent my professional & personal life seeking the missing piece, the “IT” that would make the other puzzle pieces of my past & present finally make sense & fit together.  My search took decades, not years or months.  Learning about trauma, PTSD, addiction, & […]

Are you led by love or fear?  We AVOID what we FEAR, but for mental health & wellbeing you need integration, connection & coherence…. which is hard to get while you avoid. Avoidance is how Americans are socialized.  In fact, our culture is emotionally phobic which is an allergic reaction to feelings.  So, if you […]

Five years ago, today, I started a new job & moved into my own space.  It has been an eventful 5 years; I am grateful for my progress & for the folks that lighted the path ahead of me.  Several years ago, a dear friend told me, “Divorce is at least a 3–5-year process”.  I […]