Are you led by love or fear?  We AVOID what we FEAR, but for mental health & wellbeing you need integration, connection & coherence…. which is hard to get while you avoid. Avoidance is how Americans are socialized.  In fact, our culture is emotionally phobic which is an allergic reaction to feelings.  So, if you […]

Five years ago, today, I started a new job & moved into my own space.  It has been an eventful 5 years; I am grateful for my progress & for the folks that lighted the path ahead of me.  Several years ago, a dear friend told me, “Divorce is at least a 3–5-year process”.  I […]

[et_pb_section admin_label=”section”] [et_pb_row admin_label=”row”] [et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text”] I’ve spent the last few days navigating governmental agency processes & I was reminded of some of the strange & surprising moments (& resulting disbelief) that happen due to the divorce experience. “Official” people, places, & processes often ask for your emergency contact.  For two decades my emergency […]

What I’ve found in my own journey & in guiding others is that many people struggle with a win/lose dynamic in divorce.  And specifically, when a person is feeling angry or resentful, they often inhabit the felt sense of the “loser”.  How you deal with that speaks to your personality, integrity, & healing.  Read on […]

If you are the adult child of divorce, ambivalent about your relationship, contemplating divorce, getting divorced, or post-divorce, I hope aspects of my story & journey validate your experience, expand your perspective, & provide encouragement. About me:  I’m a middle-aged, divorced woman, mother, therapist, coach & former professor. I’m also the adult child of a […]