(With or Without CPTSD) Do You Do This? This is SO common.  And it’s amplified in my clients who have a history of childhood or adult relational trauma.  Often #cptsd clients have been projected upon, gaslit, lied to, betrayed, shocked, abandoned AND then later judged for not having close connections with the people who dump […]

My Introduction to IFS I attended a free training in St. Louis; had full body chills. “This is what I’ve been searching for” – I want this!  Talk therapy hadn’t been enough.  I wanted to go deeper.  The IFS framework gave me a pathway. Overview of the IFS Model Self Energy = “I AM” 8 […]

Divorce holiday triggering is real.  Currently, I’m holding BOTH an attitude of peace & frustration.  As I reflected this morning on my holiday plans, what I heard “inside” was:  let it go let it be honor yourself If you are a person contemplating divorce, going through the process, or on the “struggle bus” of post-divorce […]

Five years ago, today, I started a new job & moved into my own space.  It has been an eventful 5 years; I am grateful for my progress & for the folks that lighted the path ahead of me.  Several years ago, a dear friend told me, “Divorce is at least a 3–5-year process”.  I […]

[et_pb_section admin_label=”section”] [et_pb_row admin_label=”row”] [et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text”] I’ve spent the last few days navigating governmental agency processes & I was reminded of some of the strange & surprising moments (& resulting disbelief) that happen due to the divorce experience. “Official” people, places, & processes often ask for your emergency contact.  For two decades my emergency […]

What I’ve found in my own journey & in guiding others is that many people struggle with a win/lose dynamic in divorce.  And specifically, when a person is feeling angry or resentful, they often inhabit the felt sense of the “loser”.  How you deal with that speaks to your personality, integrity, & healing.  Read on […]

If you are the adult child of divorce, ambivalent about your relationship, contemplating divorce, getting divorced, or post-divorce, I hope aspects of my story & journey validate your experience, expand your perspective, & provide encouragement. About me:  I’m a middle-aged, divorced woman, mother, therapist, coach & former professor. I’m also the adult child of a […]