Divorce holiday triggering is real.  Currently, I’m holding BOTH an attitude of peace & frustration.  As I reflected this morning on my holiday plans, what I heard “inside” was:  let it go let it be honor yourself If you are a person contemplating divorce, going through the process, or on the “struggle bus” of post-divorce […]

Bids Relationship researcher,  John Gottman is known for identifying: 1) the predictors of divorce with over 90% accuracy as well as 2) the behaviors or “antidotes” for couples to course correct.  Gottman’s concept of “bids for connection” is central to relational health.  Let’s apply “bids for connection” to Self & Other. A bid for connection […]

Generational health has been on my mind of late.  My heart hurts for people of my generation & older who did not get what they needed & now hurt or cause hurt b/c of it – especially as I know disconnection contributes to dis-ease in our bodies, psyche, & relationships.  I have a fear that […]

In Episode Six of the Reset With Renee Podcast, Renee speaks with Jason Mark Glasson about how he learned to live from his heart & how he brings his learning & experience to helping others.  Jason learned through his 10+ years as a monk, his work in Quantum Touch, & in his coursework with Chris […]

Every human has a past, present, & future that requires change, endings, transitions or “messy middles”, & new beginnings. Change, desired or not, stretches normal ways of coping; it challenges the status quo & invites opportunities for growth.  The developmental life cycle & your relationships also prompt opportunities for growth.  All of these factors contribute […]

CPTSD = IT. CPTSD = DEVELOPMENTAL/RELATIONAL TRAUMA + OTHER TRAUMA I’ve spent my professional & personal life seeking the missing piece, the “IT” that would make the other puzzle pieces of my past & present finally make sense & fit together.  My search took decades, not years or months.  Learning about trauma, PTSD, addiction, & […]

Are you led by love or fear?  We AVOID what we FEAR, but for mental health & wellbeing you need integration, connection & coherence…. which is hard to get while you avoid. Avoidance is how Americans are socialized.  In fact, our culture is emotionally phobic which is an allergic reaction to feelings.  So, if you […]

Five years ago, today, I started a new job & moved into my own space.  It has been an eventful 5 years; I am grateful for my progress & for the folks that lighted the path ahead of me.  Several years ago, a dear friend told me, “Divorce is at least a 3–5-year process”.  I […]

[et_pb_section admin_label=”section”] [et_pb_row admin_label=”row”] [et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text”] I’ve spent the last few days navigating governmental agency processes & I was reminded of some of the strange & surprising moments (& resulting disbelief) that happen due to the divorce experience. “Official” people, places, & processes often ask for your emergency contact.  For two decades my emergency […]

What I’ve found in my own journey & in guiding others is that many people struggle with a win/lose dynamic in divorce.  And specifically, when a person is feeling angry or resentful, they often inhabit the felt sense of the “loser”.  How you deal with that speaks to your personality, integrity, & healing.  Read on […]